Once you learn to listen effectively then learn how to use your own words to have a meaningful conversation. Have a telephone conversation with someone that you know well and ask if you can tape a few minutes of the call so you can hear how you sound.
Call your cell phone and leave yourself a message. Then listen to it to hear if you would call yourself back. What was your general benefits statement or interest creating remark? Did it capture your attention or generate curiosity? We learn a great deal about ourselves when we listen to what others hear; not what we think they hear.